Is Detangling Giving you the Blues?

How many times have you pushed off hair wash day simply because you didn’t want to go through the process of washing, detangling then having to style? Have you thought “This natural hair thing just isn’t for me” because you didn’t imagine it to be this much work? I don’t want another naturalista to relapse back to the creamy crack or be prisoner to the puff just from the thought of detangling. What if I told you detangling could be so much easier with just a few simple tips?

1. First thing is first…get a leave in conditioner with awesome slip. Here is a list of some good ones from
Mist your hair with a little conditioner and water mix before the shampoo so you can gently pull your fingers through your hair to loosen up any knots or tangles. Think of this as a warm up exercise just to get things going. Warm ups always do you well before jumping straight into the fight..we actually want to win this thing! Doing a little finger detangling before getting your hair completely wet for the shampoo just helps to remove any loose hair from normal shedding that may still be trapped in your tresses.

2. If you have tighter curls or high density hair you may even want to section your hair into four sections or more before washing so you can have complete control over your hair. Once that water hits it is hard to get that control back. Then your hair starts its slow strategy of defeat against you hoping to take you out in that first round. But no no, not this time, we’ve got something for _______(insert your hairs alias). One of my clients named her hair Bertha. There is something very empowering about winning the battle against ol Bertha..if I do say so myself. Anyway, section your hair into sections by either braiding, twisting or just clipping those sections away so that when you begin shampooing you can work section by section and not be overwhelmed.It is all about strategy ladies!

3. Depending on your hair type you may want to use your fingers to detangle during the shampoo and conditioning process or you may want to use a denman brush or wide toothed comb. Whatever you decide to use I encourage you to do most if not all of your detangling in the shower starting at the ends of the hair and working your way up. If your hair is in sections when you begin your shampoo process all you do is work through each section detangling section by section. Please, please do not rub your hair all over your head while you are shampooing. You are just adding more tangles and more work for yourself when you get done. Always smooth and detangle the hair during shampooing and conditioning going with the grain of the hair. You have to be strategic in this round or you will go down before the whistle blows, or at least before the shower turns cold. Either way, stay in control, you got this!

4.Get a good regimen and stick to it. Consistency is key to anything great! The purpose is to train your hair, not have your hair train you. Get a good shampoo and conditioner that serves its purpose for YOUR hair, find a good-slip leave in conditioner and a good moisturizing styler (depending on how you style your hair). Get products and stick to them! Do not allow your product junkie within you take over. It does not need to look like a beauty supply store under your cabinet. Getting a good weekly or biweekly washing, conditioning and styling regimen will train your hair to do what you want it to do. Once your hair is trained you will know what to expect and you will have a better handle on how to deal with it.

5. TRIM THOSE ENDS.. Whatever sounds like it is tearing your hair up stop doing it, because it probably is. This will only create split ends that will make detangling even harder in the future. If you are doing all of the right things and you are still struggling with detangling then it might just be that you need a good trim. If you are noticing single strand knots at the ends or if they are snapping and popping every time you detangle or style then you are in need of a good trim girlfriend. Damaged ends can make detangling a nightmare! All they want to do is wrap around each other and hold on for dear life. Just a good trim could improve your quality of life dramatically! Yes, your life! I said it..Enjoy life and love your hair, the journey is yours..enjoy it.

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